Enjoy Life While Waiting for the Right Match

Living your best life isn’t about waiting around for someone to complete you. It’s about becoming the fullest, happiest version of yourself so that when the right person comes along, you’re ready for a connection built on mutual respect, love, and compatibility.

In life, we all seek connection — whether it’s in friendships, family or romantic relationships. But what happens when you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons? How do you find clarity and confidence moving forward?

I’ve been reflecting on my own journey and I want to share some thoughts for those who may find themselves in a similar place.

Learning from the Past

In the past, I entered a relationship because it seemed to offer safety and security. When I was a teenager, I never imagined I could live on my own and the Mexican culture pressures young women to find a partner asap. At the time, I thought I was making the “right” choice but unfortunately both of us got hurt in the process. I realize that safety and security alone wasn’t enough to create the kind of connection that fosters growth, happiness, and true partnership. I also realized that it was unfair to the other individual and myself because we deserve partners who are a better match. I've since taken accountability and apologized for the hurt I may have caused as well as forgiven myself but that's another story.

I'm vulnerable about my experiences in hopes that it helps others to avoid experiencing heartbreak and to bring awareness on how our decisions might affect relationships/others. Being respectful of others' emotions and hearts is extremely imperative which is why being honest with yourself and others is essential.

Looking back, I also realized that I didn’t prioritize myself or my deeper needs. In previous relationships, I lost parts of who I was and gave too much without receiving the love and appreciation I truly desired. This isn't a negative judgement of my previous partners but rather an acknowledgement of our incompatibilities. I trust that there is someone out there who is better aligned to provide the love, affection and appreciation I deserve. While those lessons were hard, they’ve shaped who I am today!

The Importance of Enjoying Life

After that experience, I’ve found joy in my independence and freedom. I’ve learned how empowering it is to focus on myself and build a life that I love. This has led me to a new understanding: It’s okay to enjoy life while waiting for the right match.

Choosing a Partner Wisely

One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned is that choosing a partner should involve more than seeking security or convenience. While those things may feel comforting in the short term, they don’t sustain a fulfilling relationship. Instead, consider these factors when choosing a partner:

• Love and Respect: Do they genuinely love and respect who you are at your core?

• Compatibility: Do your values, interests, and life goals align?

• Support and Growth: Do they encourage your growth and respect your independence?

• Mutual Effort: Are they as invested in the relationship as you are?

When you prioritize these qualities, you create the foundation for a relationship that feels meaningful and lasting.

Being Honest About Your Intentions

During this time of self-discovery, I’ve also realized the importance of honesty — both with myself and others. If I’m not ready for something serious, I communicate that openly. If I feel someone isn’t the right match, I respectfully let them know. This approach not only respects their time and emotions but also helps me avoid settling for a relationship that doesn’t align with my values and goals.

Why It’s Okay to Wait

It can be tempting to rush into a relationship because of societal pressures or the fear of being alone. But I’ve come to understand that waiting for the right match isn’t about loneliness — it’s about patience and self-worth. While I wait, I’m building a life filled with joy, adventure, and growth. I’m exploring what makes me happy, connecting with new people, and learning more about myself. This phase isn’t a pause; it’s an essential part of the journey.

Final Thoughts

If you’ve ever felt the pressure to settle or the fear of waiting, know this: You don’t have to rush. You don’t have to settle for less than what you deserve. And you don’t have to choose a relationship that doesn’t align with your values and needs.

Enjoy your life, honor your growth, and trust that the right person will come when the time is right. By focusing on yourself and being intentional in your choices, you’ll not only attract the right partner — you’ll also create a life you truly love.

You’re worth the wait 💛

P.S. While you wait for your right match, you can focus on reaching your dreams! Please read my blog Following Your Dreams: Breaking Free from Family and Societal Expectations to learn how to design the life you've always dreamed of.